Manifesting Failure: How to Admit It Really Didn't Work (and Why It's Okay)

Do you feel like "he's not coming"? You're right, he won't. And I'll tell you why and why it's right.

Remember that episode of How I Met Your Mother where Barney uses the "He's not coming" pick up method? He goes to the Empire State Building's rooftop, a romantic spot where he imagines crowds of disappointed women waiting for a fateful rendezvous with their sweetheart, like we know from the movies. Most of them are totally clueless and have no idea what the guy is talking about. But then one of them figures it out…

Barney doesn't know that the crying girl is actually a Trojan horse, a planted actress on a mission to steal his book of packing tricks. Barney always tried to get the most out of his plays, putting in minimal effort and, if possible, making it so that the person he was playing with would never find him again (which is odd, considering he sometimes took them to his house).

So, how's this connected to what I wanted to chat about? I thought about the phrase "he won't come," but the more I think about it, the more I think Barney is exactly the example I want to talk about. He's been trying for years to...:

• the highest body count,

• the most luxurious stuff,

• the best experiences.

And he got the big win by cheating. Ultimately, he put on this whole show just to meet the woman he'd later sacrifice his life for. His daughter.

Sometimes things just don't work out. And for good reason. But what does the law of assumption say about it?

Does the universe have a plan... always?

I often speak of the manifestation of a specific person. Actually, I've talked about it before. I remember being obsessed with someone and making huge progress without even trying. The thing is, the more I focused on it, the less it mattered how much or how little. The focus itself led me into states that developed and shifted me. It's just part of the process that you might start to drift away from your goal.